Mediation works well for many families. However, when problems such as violence, drug or alcohol abuse, or mental illness are part of your situation, you may want to notify the mediator in advance so appropriate measures may be taken. If additional measures can’t correct the situation, the court may need to be used to make decisions for your family.
When you talk to a mediator regarding any safety issues, your answers are private. They are just between you and your mediator. They are not shared with the other parent. The only exception is if your mediator has to report information about child abuse. The mediator can give you information about places in your community where you can find help.
Some parents that have experienced domestic violence still want to participate in mediation. If you decide you want to mediate, but are worried about your safety, you can ask your mediator about safer ways to participate.
You are never required to reach an agreement through mediation.